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you make me feel low, don't make me feel low, cause I try so hard to convince myself its ok that I feel this way. low, by Sleeping With Sirens

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Zitella-Zoe
Posts: 24
Cut Jun 25 2010, 03:30 PM
My life is really bad so I started cutting myself . I am not gonna go into all the details about my horrible life,too many . I'm not sure what else to do . My family doesn't understand and I have no friends to talk to . Cutting feels like my only escape . But there has to be an alternative . Any ideas ?

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Breezy
Posts: 336
Jun 25 2010, 04:19 PM
i know how you feel, thats what i did. cutting is hard to stop and i'v relapsed alot.a good alternative is finding a talent of yours you enjoy, and pursue it. like i'm an artist,writer,musician and photographer and that stuff tends to get my mind off cutting and everything else in my world.
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XXsorrowfulsuicideXX
Posts: 365
Jun 26 2010, 04:54 AM
i used to cut alot and have relapsed as well what i did was i found someone to live for and who cares about me. another thing i do is wrestle with my brother and punch walls when im stressed and upset. like breezy said find a talent and pursue it.
OmgItsBekka
Posts: 15
Jun 26 2010, 05:55 AM
i used to cut but i realised its not helping on the long run so i started taking it out through music or hitting a wall. (:
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Nick-Aotmzgin
Posts: 1006
Jun 26 2010, 06:54 AM
aw! cuting is never a solution try and get help , anyway the only escape is not a knife or wounded hand the escape is music or sleeping watching tv , or getting outside think about it.
Zitella-Zoe
Posts: 24
Jun 27 2010, 12:20 PM
I know I should stop but it is so hard ! And really I guess my only talent is writing poetry . I've been writing a lot lately but it just doesn't seem to help ! I'm out of options .
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xXeMoRaCeRXx
Posts: 18262
Jun 28 2010, 12:33 PM
Lots of alternatives to cutting (click the link).
Zitella-Zoe
Posts: 24
Jun 28 2010, 07:57 PM
That's kinda helpful but to be honest I don't wanna stop . Oh! I'm a huge mess !
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xXeMoRaCeRXx
Posts: 18262
Jun 30 2010, 12:58 PM
Talk to us :]
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xXxChrisJWxXx
Posts: 1546
Jul 01 2010, 06:34 AM
I've felt like you a lot lately... Try visiting your doctor I know it's hard and scarey but in the end it could help you. Also Matt's right, talk to us (=
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XxEmoRangerxX
Posts: 50
Aug 09 2010, 01:49 PM
Aww yeah. I've been there sooo many times. I still have scars on my arms from when I used to cut. I don't anymore, but I'm not gonna say I'll never do it again, because I know I will. *hugs*
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nikkiwest
Posts: 2440
Aug 10 2010, 05:43 PM
as much as id hate to admit it im not over it either my sister almost did it in front of me and I told her not to because that would tempt me and then i started to think about it and stuff and then tonight just made it worse but idkayy what advise to give anymore
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xnewtx
Posts: 28
Aug 11 2010, 03:29 AM
these youtube acounts helped me alot as selfharm has been a part of me since my childhood. but i just tend to write music and play guitar, i have done other things im not proud of but i takes my mind of it is a battle of self controll in away sullen girl http://www.youtube.com/user/xsullengirlx?blend=1&ob=4 idranktheseawater http://www.youtube.com/user/idranktheseawater hope they help :)
FiFiTheVampBitcxh
Posts: 243
Aug 12 2010, 12:17 PM
i no wot urs going through im cutting too and tryin ot find a way out of it however im easily tempted i think im gettin addicted but any addiction you can break out of somehow so there is ways jsut got ot find the right one for you
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Everything_is_Red
Posts: 173
Nov 22 2014, 03:51 PM
I hate to say this to you but: It is never too early (or too late) to stop. Seeing as you have just started I suggest you try to stop. I know it is easier said than done, but trust me. It gets harder to stop and more severe the longer you do it for and it ruins your life. I have self harmed for 5 and a half years and I am stuck with horrible wide scars that will take years to fade. I have used it to cope for so long now that I am finding it almost impossible to stop. Sometimes I wish I could go back to myself at the stage you are now and tell myself that I need to stop, and that by self harming things will be worse in the long run. I'd love to be able to admit that I've recovered and that everything is fine, but to be honest it is still a daily struggle for me. I used smoking as an alternative (and still do) but you need to find some kind of healthy alternative. Like sports. I do dance and I feel like it is a way of expressing myself and it also produces adrenaline (that you feel when you cut) so it is helpful.
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EyeWings
Posts: 287
Jan 11 2015, 02:11 PM
Hello Zitella Zoe, very sorry to hear of your problems with cutting. It's such a hard task to break out of the cycle, but I promise you it can be done. First of all, ets not tackle the "cutting" itself, try instead to identify why this all started in the first place. By doing that it can help you prevent the sort of situations that lead to cutting, which may in the long run make you less likely to do so in future. Self harming can happen for a number of reasons, sometimes it can be when a person is placed under intense social, domestic and/or personal pressure and its a way of alleivating that. Sometimes it can be a percieved internal guilt for somehow feeling "inferior" compared to other people, sometimes if you have peer pressure, a falling out and so on inflicting the pain can help channel the frustration and resentment. It can also be a medical compulsion i.e a habit formed just like nail-biting etc as a way of channeling anxiety albeit far more serious. If you can identify any of those causes ( or a combination) as having some impact on your life, you could be closer to understanding why your cutting incidents started.So now, trying to find a way beyond cutting. First of all your environment. If at all possible surround yourself with like-minded people whom you enjoy the company of. It can be tempting or sometimes unavoiable to hang around negative people and feed the negativity in your life, but it is important to try and remove yourself from those enviroments as it only adds to the torture and can lead to harming. Getting new friends or just a change of scenery can be a real boost to wellbeing and make you less inclined to cut.You have as much right to enjoy life as anybody else, so don't be afraid to find your own enviroment you feel comfortable with. Try and kurb anything in your life causing undue pressure. Things such as exams or work can contribute to stress and make you more likely to turn that anxiety inward. Try and cut back on certain jobs, or take more regular breaks just to give yourself space to breath. On the flip side, some people who self harm do so because they are not only anxious but boerd and work/study can actually help take your mind of things. Work out which you thrive on and what you need more/less of in your life. Medically some people are more likely to have obsessional thoughts/actions and this can also be the root problem or at least part of it. In this case it is best to visit your GP and they will refer you to a specialist who will access you and decide whether it is best that you go on medication for a time to help stem the flow of thoughts. They will always suggest that you also do something you enjoy alongside the medication as pills alone won't work. Taking up an activity you enjoy will help the healing process much faster and hopefully mean you dont have to resort to cutting ever again. I hope this is of some help to you, if you have any questions or just want a friendly voice to vent on, you are more than welcome to talk. Best Wishes for the future. :)

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