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Sinéad he loves you still and it's tearing him apart, you may need to tell him you're hurting too before he accepts it because he may already know. The truth is this could be permanent or temporary, he loves you and in his head he may be fighting to be your friend but loves you, this makes him or at least would me, want to put a little distance between you, just until the feelings die down. If I was you and was still in love I would try a secret relationship, or be friends who have a thing and never go out with anyone else. He's hurting, you are too. With a guy, or at least me, you can't just be friends when you think/are in love.. It could be time to say good bye but hold on and ask hime to go out just you two, drag him out if you have to; stay as close as you can and he may come around, just think and keep in mind he may be pushing you away because he wants you closer. Love is the most complex feeling anyone can feel, you can't just say lets be friends, you may have to try again and break off the relationship slower like medication. Love releases so many hormones and chemicals he could be experiencing a hormonal imbalance or even psychological difficulties. Love is a hell of a lot more than just feelings especially when it's deep, it's a psychology, it's hormones, it's the way you plan your future. You may not know what's going on at the moment and if it is to do with chemicals and hormones he may have no idea. Be patient and stick close.

Thanks a lot chris, that really helped me to see things from his perspective a little more, thanks so much

You're welcome, if you need to talk PM me an I'll try to help.

im goin away for a couple of weeks on friday, should i try and talk to him more before i go or should i wait until i come home and give him those couple of weeks to himself??

I'd talk and tell him how you feel a bit or it may get worse, he could misconstrue it as you abandoning him... Talk and explain whats happening with you and going away, try and gradually build your relationship back up to what it was before.

ok, i'll talk to him this evening, thanks for all the help, can i PM you after i talk to him? if im being annoying just tell me lol

ofc you can hun, dun worry abaout it really

Well Chris has given great advice. I say talk to him and don't leave it too long. Also I agree on "I would try a secret relationship". However if I knew about the incident I may change my mind.