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I push my fingers into my eyes It’s the only thing that slowly stops the ache But its made of all the things i have to take Jesus it never ends, it works its way inside If the pain goes on I’m not gonna make it! Duality, by Slipknot

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screamotaku
Posts: 42
Need Relationship Advice Dec 31 2013, 07:53 AM
Ok so I've been in a relationship with this girl for almost a month now, but we've had a few problems, her family and friends were trying to break us up because she'll be moving away to wiltshire in a few months. I told her I'll do everything I can and promised to keep visiting her, she was unsure but said she'd let me try. Then a few days ago her best friend messaged me on skype saying that she's been cheating on me with some guy she met a few days ago, and this guy lives even further away from where she's moving to. I got really depressed for a few days and self-harmed for the first time in ages and drank too much. She doesn't know how bad it got for me but I'm being torn to pieces by this. I love her and want to trust her, but it's so hard, I thought she was being flirty with this same guy when we met him and now I'm starting to think maybe she really is just playing with me like an idiot. I was really depressed until I met her and I had never felt better in my life until the past month, but now I just don't know what to think or who to trust. Maybe her friend is just trying to break us up again but at the same time my GF has been speaking to me less and like I said I think she's being flirty to this guy behind my back.

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DamagedGoods
Posts: 7
Dec 31 2013, 10:00 AM
I am not sure about your ages here, but one thing to keep in mind is that younger people, especially teens, are not really ready to pick just one person. I understand how you feel though. Being used is never a good thing. I blame this mostly on the medias sensationalizing young relationships. In older days, dating meant exactly that. People would go out on dates, with many people. It was only a long time, and several dates with the same person, that they decided they liked each enough to go steady. Even then, in was often years before they would wed. Society has degraded so badly these days that most young people have no sense of belonging without a relationship though, and this causes problems due to the level of inexperience (not talking about sex but emotional/social). Whatever her reasons, or explanations are, just know that it is not your fault. My advice, considering what she's done, the hesitation on her part, and the fact that anything from this point on would be long distance, is to let her go. It may hurt for a while, but you will recover. Nobody should ever be so reliant on another person that they feel the need to harm themselves, or worse, without their presence. You are the only you there is. You are special and unique. You should stand tall on your own. You deserve more than just words of love over a messenger. You need somebody to hold and whispers things too, somebody to hang with and do the everyday normal things with. It's never ok to give up, but it is ok to let go. There's a difference. I hope this helps in some small way. ~D
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XxTehFurrehLion34xX
Posts: 30
Dec 31 2013, 11:06 AM
Well What he said was a good point. You are still a teenager. You need to talk to her about it and work it out. And if she really loves you back she will realize what she did was wrong and ask for forgiveness. If not, then she doesn't deserve you. Stay strong. I'm always here to help.
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screamotaku
Posts: 42
Jan 02 2014, 07:58 PM
Thx both of you, I don't think I have to leave her because of the long distance problem but I am gonna talk to her and try to sort all out and if I do have to I'll leave her. I guess it's true I shouldn't feel I have to be with her to be happy but it's hard because I've had depression for so long and this was the only thing that really helped me.

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