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I know what it's like to sit and pass the time with things that i barely like. The sun sets and i wonder where my life went, the summer.. Conversations, by Closure

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WarriorofYouth
Posts: 31
Unsupportive family Jul 09 2014, 12:48 PM
so this has been relevant for these past 6 years or so, i just feel like my family don't care about me at all, there's been times where I've really needed help, one time I was actually in danger by one of my mums creepy boyfriends who was pervy and my brothers did nothing to protect me at all, they told my mum to ignore me, saying it was basically my fault. Or other times where I've been talking about college plans and they are all really negative, saying stuff like ''oh, you won't make it into college' yes I missed school because I was too ill with anemia, like they even care. My brother has been demeaning to me constantly in front of his friends. My mum is exactly the same. Negative about everything. They just don't understand me at all, or understand how hard these past few years have been for me. I feel like I don't belong in my family :/ This is just a few examples, i don't know what to do it's making me so upset and angry?

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EyeWings
Posts: 287
Jul 09 2014, 03:22 PM
Hi! Sorry to hear your family have been less than supportive of you over the last few years. It sounds as if your brothers in particular have been picking on you. Unfortunately siblings can at times be malicious without any good reason. It also sounds as if your mum is inclined to take their word over yours which must be particularly frustrating. Is there anybody outside your immediate family you could confide in? Perhaps part of your extended family? If you could discuss how you feel with them, they may then relay this to your mum, and as an "adult" their word may have more weight. Your mum should of course listen to your concerns directly, but if in this case she doesn't, another member of the family may be able to get through to her. I would also try and make a few solid friends that you can count upon at school. They will believe in you and help you to believe in yourself, and keep you committed to attending college. If you can surround yourself with some good people like this it may help counter some of the negativity you feel bombarded by at home. If you feel that being in that environment will genuinely affect your educational prospects, it may be worth subtly mentioning to a teacher how you feel. I can understand you may be reluctant to do this if you feel it could get your family into trouble, but it is worth considering. They may offer your family some advice and recommendations on what they should be doing to support you. In relation to your recollections of your mum's boyfriend, if you feel in immediate danger of abuse in any form in future under any circumstances, get in touch with someone who can help. Either the police if it is urgent, or phone a helpline that will help get you in contact with someone who will listen to you if your own family aren't responding to your concerns. Again this is another drastic step, but you must protect yourself if you feel under threat. I hope that things improve for you soon. If you would like to discuss anything further feel free to PM and best Wishes. :)
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Crankor
Posts: 79
Jul 09 2014, 04:23 PM
Unfortunately if you want a better supporting family lifestyle, it would have to come from others family. As mentioned, there are times when say cousins n such are more considerate. The upside is you'll learn to be independent... well it has it's downsides too. Eventually just have to accept that they aren't very emotional parents/people.
Ruby_Winnter
Posts: 31
Jul 12 2014, 10:12 PM
if you ever need to talk msg me. my family isn't saportive eather not as bad as yours but still. maybe we could text

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