Well as great and amazing as Myspace may well be. Go onto the "Browse" feature and try finding someone local to you by entering your postcode. It hasn't worked in months...for me anyway. I won't ruin the site don't worry. I'm too fussy to make a mess xx

You say such nice things about the site as well, thanks. The structure/navigation/layout is not cluttered like some of the communities your right. When I get the chance and a bit of artistic flair I will make the site prettier and even more usable. For example the "My Account" page is a little boring. xx

Hehe thanks and well as far as I know it was the first meeting through www.soEmo.co.uk so it had to go in the news x x x

I thought this would give you a giggle as well. The Gay Men's Bible: 1. Every gay guy should own or have watched Beautiful Thing. 2. Bad hair days are not something that can be allowed to happen to a gay man. Lesbians are, of course, exempt and even encouraged to think otherwise. 3. It is a gay man's right to get invites to both the Hen and Stag nights. 4. When spreading rumours it is okay to exaggerate the truth, as long as it makes the rumour more interesting. 5. It is okay to be late; the heterosexuals just expect it from us. Don't make another homosexual wait too long though because it's a miracle that they are even ready on time. 6. When out, it is your legal duty to distract the ugly friend of some hottie with whom your best friend is trying to score. Should you get carried away with your good deed and end up having sex with the beast, your friend is forbidden to speak of it. 7. Similarly, you should always rescue a fellow homo from the clutches of any undesirable. Put your arm around him and act as their boyfriend. 8. When out, you are expected to sing along to every Britney, Christina, or Madonna song and to know every word. 9. Before dating a fellow homo's ex, you are required to ask his permission. If they say no you are allowed to date them anyway. 10. Straight men who say they're okay with gay people but don't try to hook up with them need to be watched closely because they can't be trusted. 11. If a homo's zipper is down, reach in and give his willy a shake. 12. When a homo asks you to help him move house laugh in their face. 13. Homosexuals don't fart in public, end of story. 14. A straight guy who is drunk is still considered off limits even if he is coming on to you like a two dollar whore. 15. Nevertheless, spooning drunk straight guys is not only acceptable, but strongly encouraged. 16. Only drink fruity chick drinks. Drinking beer is for hetero men and we're above that. 17. When fighting a fellow homo degrade them verbally till you can't anymore and then commence hitting like a girl. 18. Thou shall worship Karen Walker. 19. Honour thy fag hag. 20. Do not sleep with your fag hag's boyfriend. If and only if he makes the first move, making out and copping a quick feel are acceptable. 21. Never hesitate to reach for the last anything. We're gay and we deserve it. 22. When in the bathroom it's OK to sneak a peak at your neighbours goodies, just don't get caught! 23. Do not take the name of Cher in vain. 24. Before allowing a drunken friend to cheat on his boyfriend, you must attempt to get a piece of the action or swear you'll tell his boyfriend. 25. The morning after you and a fellow homo who was formerly "just a friend" have drunken doggie sex, the fact that you're feeling weird and guilty is no reason not to do it again before the discussion about what a big mistake it was. 26. Don't hit on straight guys. This rule is null and void if the striaght guy in question is making homophobic remarks or just being a dick in general and needs to be put in his place. In this situation a light slap on the ass is acceptable. 27. Under no cirumstances shall a gay man ever shop at Primark. 28. It is perfectly acceptable to mock straight men for sleeping with women. The same is not true for lesbians as they are the bodyguards of the gay community. 29. You should aim to be fluent in one of the following subjects: fashion, dance music, show tunes, or interior decorating. 30. A significant period of time without gay sex may result in being downgraded to simply "amusing". 31. You may not call someone your boyfriend unless he is also aware of the fact that he is your boyfriend. 32. There is a statute of limitations on being "bi-sexual" of two years. After the statute has expired you must choose a team, or be randomly assigned one based on your hotness. 33. Being gay also makes you a diva. This entitles you to bitch, whine, complain and just genrerally piss and moan about how things/people are not up to your standards. 34. Gay "seniority" is determined by length of time you have been out not by age. 35. The word fabulous is a word of gay creation. Straight men who use it more than twice in their life are automically assumed to be homo by assosiation. 36. An orgy is not considered a "group date". 37. Porn is for sharing. 38. Pride is not compulsory, although nevertheless a Doctor's note is required for non-attendance. 39. Hollyoaks is compulsory viewing. 40. Always consult to check what your friends are wearing before you leave the house, as inadvertantly choosing the same outfit will make other people think you are a couple.

Hey hey baby girl :D Have you had a good week? Did you enjoy your bank holiday weekend? Hope all is well for you!? :) Ive had a mixed week; everything went wrong up until last night really. Huge arguments with rents, a boy who I really fell for a few years ago reappearing and just screwing up whats left of my mind earlier in the week; however as of last night I am kind of seeing him now, only slight hurdle is that he lives in London so going to have to have a think about what I want to do. I really did fall for him a few years ago but his parents were moving down south so things never quite worked out. :s It may all drop into place though, I am thinking about quitting work and going back to college / university to retrain as a digital artist and I want to do that in London as its the best place to do the course(s). Im just trying to not get my hopes up about him though and trying to resist from falling for him again just yet, because I was in a right mess when he had to leave last time and dont want to put myself through it again :s He is rather lovely though, this is him :P My internet is still playing up, the line has been replaced and now BT are saying oh we might have found an issue at the exchange, which I am going to assume is code for they dont know. :s Did your weekend go according to plan and everything? Im quite looking forward to better weather as well, cant say Im a great fan of the heat either but a little will be welcome. No worries being talkative, haha Im not going to skim through anything youve typed, hehe. :P Tantras happy side: Hehe, theres nothing wrong with that title. :D Hehe sounds like youre having fun, and great that youre in a fabulous mood. You should dance however you feel you want to, unless Im on stage my dancing has been described as a a deranged chimp, trying to swot an imaginary fly, thats the size of a budgie :P I really dont care though, hehe. I love it, super happy screamy Tantra. :D Hmmm thank you for that kind reminder of my impending forties, however if I havent mentioned it before, I always go on my mental age, which never seemed to get much past thirteen. :P Im we most probably will still be talking, I cant see why not. No worries on the stalking, whats a little restraining order between friends. :P Windows Live Messenger: I did manage to sign in the other day and even tolerated almost fifteen minutes of nonsensical gibberish from people and then mysteriously I got signed out and developed an inability to be able to click on the sign in bottom again. :D Sounds promising with this dude you met on there, Im sure you will keep me posted. :P Hehe, with all the love and XxMwahxXs that we seem to exchange I may have to retrain as a cherub. :D (Ok lets now go nuts :P)

Never stand still weekends: The weekend was pretty good, we had three South Yorkshire Pride warm up/fundraising events and managed to get a good chunk of money come in and managed to secure two new corporate sponsors as well so that was a great result. I decided not to pursue anything with my exs, ex, it was just too strange and I was really dubious about his thinking behind to whole idea. We are in contact as friends though so at least I have regained an old friend. It was probably for the best that I decided against pursuing anything with him as well, as I mentioned earlier the boy reappearing who I fell for and am now kind of seeing arrived on Saturday evening and things seem to have happened rather quickly with all that. I am thinking good thoughts though about it all. :) Yeah people seem to want to drag me back into their ways and as you say circle of life, and it does get rather annoying, but fortunately I am somewhat stronger now and I am able to keep my own mind and deflect the will of bastards who try to influence me. :P Thank you for the kiss though, I shall cherish it. :P Rocking the casbah. :P: Haha, yes it does seem I am one of THOSE people, lots of reasons why, some I understand, some I dont, some I probably dont want to, head Doctor said I have fears of abandonment, trust, self-esteem, abuse didnt help, blah, blah, blah. :D I am rather independent and you are correct that I dont think I need a man to breathe and I certainly dont go after every man with a pulse, I am really picky when it comes to men, I cant really put my finger on what someone has to do or be for me to want to pursue something with them, I either just connect with someone or I dont.

Hmmm, theres a question what freaks me out about it all?. :s Maybe if I knew the answer, I would be halfway there to sorting the issue out, I have a few insights. I know Im rather strange, rather odd and having a high IQ is as much of a curse as it is a blessing, ADHD, OCD, need I go on. I have always ended up having trouble accepting that someone can just accept me as I am and so I end up getting freaked out and going on the hunt to try and find things wrong. :s Broken heart is another big issue, there is quite a definite wall around my heart (I keep it in a jar at the side of the bed :P), and yes, although I am generally optimistic, when it comes to relationships I fall into a pessimistic thinking track with seem ease and as you said end up thinking whats the point!?. I shall see what happens now, I have a very open minded outlook for the new boy as I never had the negative feelings when I was seeing him back then and so far he has been saying all the right things. :D Haha, hopefully I have managed to avoid the lol this time, I had been hammering the texts rather a lot and was slipping back into using text speak again, my apologies. :P Hehe, random question, I love it, I am one hundred and eighty eight centimetres (6ft 2 thereabouts if youre an imperialist :P). Annoying neighbours / chavs / bottom feeders / embarrassment to society: Sorry to hear you had to have twelve months off due to health :-( are you ok now? And sorry to hear about mindless arseholes having an impact on your life and education , I keep hoping that society will eventually become more enlightened, but I am not going to hold my breathe. :s I wouldnt worry too much about re-sits, they are there for a reason. When I was a lecturer I actually positively encouraged my students to forget about the mains if they were unsure in any way and just focus on the re-sits. :P Haha, hmmm yes pipe-bombs, what can I say, misspent youth, Eric & Dylan had nothing on me. :D My Uncle showed me how to make them when I was about fifteen, very useful during my activist years. ;) The gassing does sound good though, and so much easier to explain away. :P Aww thank you, I will confess that when I was trying to delude myself into thinking I was straight, because I was unhappy with me and what I was trying to be I did become a bit of a wanker. Thankfully I came out and that all changed. :D

Have I ever been interested in a straight guy, knowing his orientation?, ahem *nervous whistle*, yes three times and have actually been involved with two straight guys. One was in school, he was a prefect and just liked me, he had never shagged a boy before and never has since (from what he says), we have kept in touch, I have no reason to doubt what he says and I am godfather to his daughter! Nice little complicated world. :s The other was someone I worked with, I think it was my second job, I was still playing the being straight game, one thing led to another at a staff party and that went on for about five months before I got a new job. The third one was my case worker when I was going through a few things, apart from the fact he was my case worker, it turned out to be my second cousin as well, so Im glad I never pursued that one. :P Interesting outfits probably really doesnt come close. :P We do have silver pvc trousers & string-like vest tops, white skinny jeans, fitted white vest top and angel wings. :P There are so many more, but theres a little sample. I may have some more interesting outfits soon; I am getting a makeover when I have a wander down to London in a couple of weeks to see the boy & photo shoot in his new designs......hmmm we shall see. :s Hehe, I do that, anything that has a gay character I tend to make a point of watching. No I dont think youre obsessed, you just have good taste. :P No I dont get turned on by two guys kissing either, oh wait, thats not quite true is it. :D Ahhh http://www.godhatesgoths.com/, someone brought that site to my attention several months ago. Just how disturbing is it that there are even people who think that way! Prejudice like that does wind me up with ease and I have destroyed a few possessions in the process. :P Alcohol and drug life: I am now permanently seated on my doormat, awaiting delivery of my medal. :D You are correct, taking drugs, smoking, drinking whilst pregnant can cause serious problems, I have a couple of friends and an ex-boyfriend who has some obvious signs of the effects of what can happen when substance abuse takes place during pregnancy, not good :-( Haha, I did question a couple of my closer friends up here on my campness levels and it has been universally agreed that I have camp moments more than anything and would be a very low level camp! Hehe, yes I have no need to try and be strange, it comes to me more naturally than turning round and pretending to see what time it is on the watch I dont own, when a cute gay dude walks past. :P I know what you mean though with the try-hards, just be your damn self. :D Gay dude is fully integrated into my vocabulary now, I use the phrase so much. :P

Honesty, truth and intelligent conversation: Ahem sound so typical coming from yourself, Im sure I have no idea what you mean. :P Yeah, I dont have a problem with people being a little selfish, I think sometimes everyone has to be a little selfish if only from a self preservation point of view. However when it crosses over to destructive levels towards someone else then one should examine ones behaviour. I do hope I dont come across as stuck up, and you have confirmed that I dont, so Im all happy now. :D I have no idea what I would do without you either honey. :D Incomplete, unfilled and poorly thought out profiles: Haha, yes boys dancing on podiums in what was basically a couple of poorly stitched together, brightly coloured pieces of lycra did used to be rather popular (or maybe that was the frequent falling out incidents :P). Hehe, Tantra on her new podium, still seems like something is missing, maybe I should send you a drum or something else to make lots of noise with. :P Of course Ive noticed your updates, your profiles looking great. :P The world will one day see the light, that a profile that is not filled is nothing more than a glorified e-mail address. :D I shall skip over the first bit of that as I hope I have corrected my behaviour of putting in the signature. My gay parents (Miss Bambi Dexterous & Miss Enid Whiplash) gave me the name OurAndy, if I remember correctly it was because they and the rest of the random family said that I reminded them of that favourite cousin, relation or something that lots of people have and so I got named OurAndy (it was OurMichael for a while, still is occasionally. However that started getting a little confusing). Haha, yes I only have copyrights on designs, concepts and a few things that I have wanted to keep for myself. Hmmm, I did go through a bit of a daredevil phase, stupidity phase was maybe a little closer. :s Car surfing, trying to attract lightning, creating plasma in a microwave, various experiments with things that go bang, disappeared into Trossachs National Park for two weeks with nothing more than a sleeping bag, a one man tent and a cooking pot. There are lots of others, which I shall go into at some point. :P I can get bored of things really quickly if Im not stimulated or think that effort could be better spent elsewhere. So yes its probably all part of the spur of the moment thing. :D Painted nails and such a gay night: Hehe, I do prefer the gorgeous actually, so please do carry on. :P Ekkk yes I have never got on with hot, I am never quite sure what is it meant to mean, is someone suggesting I look sweaty or something!? Fit *shudder* as well. :P

Acquiring words & phrases from friends: Cool beans is making the random family giggle every time I say it now as none them are too sure what it means. :D Hmmm I have experienced similar things myself with people leaving comments on sites, photos, even sending me messages, like you say I dont how such saddos think you will react, or what they are trying to achieve!? It is just pathetic when you find out its kids though, the future of society? Oh my god (in my campest, gayest, stamp my feet voice :P). Hehe, well you make me smile with your ability to create sexual associations from non-sexual dialog. :P Aww well hopefully they will never be lost on me. :D Well Im glad your cold has improved, hopefully your all better again now. :) Im sure I wont get sick of making sure youre ok. I managed to fight mine off just before it took hold; the bottle of Whisky I consumed in the process was purely medicinal. :D Hehe, I really enjoy herbal teas, I do try to make a point of drinking herbal tea in place of junk drinks e.g. cans of pop, fizzy crap etc. Hmmm yeah some of those detox arent the best. :s I am definitely a tea person, I do have coffee once in a while but I try to avoid too much coffee as I really dont need any assistance in staying awake. :D I am very much the same with organic food, I did really get into it a few years ago, then I had a contract at an organic food supplier, and it was far from organic, so I do have the view of whats the point!?, I think the only way to actually get real organic food is to grow it yourself, however I cant see me doing that any time soon. :P I think I am permanently attached to my laptop now, I once left it at a friends I had been to visit in Newcastle and had just got on the train and really started to panic, I got really disturbed by how lost I felt without it. :s Haha, yes some of my friends have figures that some women would probably kill for. :D My best friend Bambi has a 24 waist, 28 chest, 5ft 7 in height and weighs about 7.5 stone wet though. I have noticed as well with lots of gay and bi dudes that their body structure is more feminine like. Then there are some of my friends who positively try to mould themselves to look and be more feminine which I really dont understand but I have no issue with them wanting to do it if its to make themselves feel more comfortable, I still find it a bit odd though. :P Personally I actually like guys who have guys bodies, and I am ok with my own, 30 waist, 38 chest, 6ft 2 thereabouts and weigh 10.5 stone, I have sized down a lot, when I used to train regular (martial arts), I was 44 chest, 36 waist and weighed 16 stone, was all toned, looked a bit of a meat head I suppose but got injured and cant do what I used to be able to so decided to slim down, still have bits I dont like, but dont we all.