Feb 14 2013, 08:49 PM

between my mom having a mild heart attack, fighting with my step-dad, and having the divorce on the week end. I had a good valentine's day alone, how about you?

Jan 29 2013, 06:35 PM

What is love? Is love an emotion or a feeling? There are many questions about love, the most common one being: "Were can I find love?", love is something anyone can find anywhere. There are difrent forms of love, most people think there is only one, the one were someone loves another person. This one however is only an illusion. If everyone who said they were in love with someone actually was, there would be literally a 0% divorce rate. Think about it. If you truly loved someone, would you not be completely honest and loyal to them? There would be no adultery, no fighting, and definatly no abuse. Abuse its the one thing I personally hate. If you state you love someone, you should never ever raise your hand to that person. When your in love you feel like your flying do you not? Finding love is probably the one thing that drives everyone to the extreme. Some people do insane things in the name of love. there are three stages of love. The first stage of love is actually before you even know your in love. This is when your falling in love. This is the one were you have the most fun, with out without the person you've fallin in love with. Even while thinking about them makes you smile, but when you're with them, you feel like nothing could ever hurt you. between the first and second stage of love, there is a small gap. This is where you find out that they are falling in love with you to. Some people rush right into the second stage instead of clarifying the small gap. This is where people go wrong. You must clarify that gap before you proceed to the second stage. If you don't, things can go wrong in the long run. I will not explain how you can clarify that is for you to find out. The second stage of love is when you are a actually in the relationship now. Most people like this stage the most, it just makes there day when one Wakes up from a text or a pleasant conversation from the other. While in the relationship you start to realize how lucky you are to have that someone special in you're life. This could be called "The bliss" stage. Its when you start realizing how beautiful everything is. You start looking in the distance and you notice how the sun hits the trees or grass and how it reflects off just in the perfect way. This is where people should stop. There should only be the 2 stages if love and an in-between. However this its not the case. There is another stage aswell as a transition stage. This transition stage shoot be called "The grey area". This is where the emotions of mistrust, jealousy, and misguidance come into place. This is where the bliss stage comes to an end to either one or both partners in the relationship. it only takes one partner in the grey area to end the relationship. The other might not even know that their partner is in this state until its over. Once the transition stage is over, the final stage comes into play. This stage could be called "After shock". The after shock stage could either be violent or passive. One partner might take it the wrong way and get aggressive. On the other hand they might understand and let it go, this is the best choice. Once one partner is convinced the relationship is over you should accept this, this its the least painful way. then once the relationship is over there's a chance they might start the cycle over again with another partner. There is however another transition stage called "The void" this is where emotions like depression and denial lay. This is where one partner might not want to let go Of the already broken relationship. My advice is to accept the inevitable and move on. In short, love is nothing less than an illusion wich very few people could understand. The ones that do understand are thoes old couples you see walking on the beach at six In the morning, or having a pleasnt dinner on Valentines day. In all honesty, I pitty the ones caught in the illusion called love, but I do respect thoes who wish to achive bliss.